Just a quick update, this post wasn’t supposed to publish until Thursday, November 29th, on our actual anniversary.
Today we would have been married 9 years, though we spent a grand total of 15 years together.
We had a small wedding at a little white church around the corner from the farm in Willis, VA. The church had been built in 1856, we got a full tour after the ceremony and some where on actual film I have some beautiful photographs of it. I will dig them out one of these days.
For so many reasons I won’t forget that day. My parents stood as witnesses, our daughter Claire still claims that she got married to us that day, it was Thanksgiving weekend and Virginia Tech was playing instate rival UVA. I was actually late to my wedding. I had worked night shift the evening before, picked up Jay’s shoes and Claire’s dress on the way home and laid down to take a quick nap.
After rushing to get ready and get everyone out the door, we all pile into Mommy’s Blazer and drove the mile around the corner to the church. Daddy grumbled about missing the game, I didn’t know it until we were half way through the ceremony that he had a walkman with ear buds on and was listening to the game. We discovered that he was listening when he shouted out “Yes!” as Virginia Tech scored a touch down. Luckily the preacher thought he was just happy that his daughter was finally getting married after living in sin.
We went out for dinner, buffet style. When we got home to find goats had gotten out, the dog was laying on the front porch sleeping with a couple of kids curled up beside him. I guess he was baby goat sitting. The guineas were raising the alarm because the goats were out and our big buck Jake stood in the middle of the driveway daring Daddy to run him over. Those two never did see eye to eye and were always butting heads.
Once everyone was fed, settled in and all that Claire went to spend the night with my parents and we were going to have our own special night. The only two really big upsets of the day were the fact that Virginia Tech lost to UVA and we fell fast asleep before 9 pm. We did eventually get our weekend together a few years later and it was well worth the wait.
I have no regrets except one, I would love to have had more time together. 15 years just wasn’t enough.
If tears could build a stairway
and thoughts a memory lane
I’d walk right up to heaven
and bring you home again
No Farewell words were spoken
No time to say good-bye
You were gone before I knew it
And only God knows why.
My heart’s still active in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know.
But now I know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store.
Since you’ll never be forgotten
I pledge to you today
A hallowed place within my heart
Is where you’ll always stay.
God knows why, with chilling touch,
Death gathers those we love so much,
And what now seems so strange and dim,
Will all be clear, when we meet Him.
I Knew you for a Moment
Light, Love and Peace